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Hey guys, it’s Mandy. Kim is not in the studio today, but we have two special guests Another Kim, kim Nichols, the other Kim.
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Kimmy.
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And Holly Bristol. Hi guys, they are both on our nextTalk team. They’ve been on our show before, so they’re no strangers to nextTalk Radio. But y’all tell us the age of your kids, that kind of thing, just for new listeners.
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Okay, mine are 19, 17, and 12.
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And mine are 22 and 17.
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All right. So parents, these two ladies right here, they’re kind of like my heads up. I call them heads up mamas. They tell me what’s coming down the pipeline. They tell me this is big in high school. This is going on right now. I have a freshman in high school, so they have been a huge asset to me. They’ve been doing this since before middle school and I remember both of them were saying, okay, expect this in middle school and it helped me so much. So today we want to talk about leaving the nest out of the nest. What happens when they move out? It happens so quickly.
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It does. You’re talking about having a freshman and we feel like we had freshman yesterday and now we have seniors and college girls.
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So when I dropped my kid off at the high school for the first day, I bawled More than even kindergarten, more than even kindergarten. And I called my husband and the first thing he said was this is practice for college, which made me cry even harder.
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Cry now, because the day you move her into college you’ll be so exhausted you won’t cry for about two days because you’re like, oh my gosh, that’s, that was hard work, oh, but she’s gone.
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And then, like two days later, the realization is which is good, don’t cry in front of her. So you’re so busy. And I remember thinking and all, and I’m sappy, I’m a sappy, love everybody, mama, and so everybody. All of my kids were just waiting when mom’s going to cry. When we moved her into the dorm for the first time and it was, they were just waiting to see it happen and everyone started joking about it and I didn’t cry because we were laughing and exhausted.
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It’s hard work. It’s been there for hours. It’s hard work. It’s been there for hours. It’s all you’ve been shopping, probably weeks in advance, getting all their stuff right. Oh, the stuffing is never ending.
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That’s a whole other show.
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It’s a different channel.
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You could go on forever about how many thousands of dollars you’re going to spend at Target and then it comes back in May in these grocery bags.
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I mean these bags, and you’re like what happened.
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I lived. Yeah, where do I put all of this stuff now? In the house I?
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don’t know you have a whole other house in your house. So did you ever end up crying? Not on that day. You were strong. Not on that day.
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And it’s funny, and I think one of the reasons why I thought this was important to do this show is it depends on your personality. I remember having a friend who, when her daughter was a senior in high school, she would cry just talking about anything that involved graduation moving on and I remember looking at her going wow, I thought I was sappy, but I was also. As my daughter got my oldest got closer to graduating high school, I could tell she was done with high school.
She was ready to move on. She was prepared, we had had all these conversations about it, and so I was so excited for her getting to move on that I think it was less of a sappy, sad mom Like you’re moving out moment as a you go girl.
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Like you’re ready for this.
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We’ve prepared you for this. But the thing that, like I think we’re talking about on this show is the things that we don’t talk about. We talk about the excitement of getting the dorm room stuff and all the shopping and you know, getting into the school that you’ve applied for and meeting new friends and who you’re going to room with or you’re going to dorm, an apartment or whatever, but we don’t talk about what that feels like as a parent. As a parent, yeah, when you wake up one day and realize they’re not in my house, they’re gone.
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They’re not in my house. Energy changes.
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And I’m parenting them over the phone, through text. I’m no longer able to just sit down face to face and have these conversations, but just I remember even and I still do it today when she’s been home for this summer or holidays, and also I’m like thinking she’s upstairs sleeping and I have to go.
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Oh, she’s gone, like she’s not here, yes, and I have to hold the whole thing, that clicks in my brain and go oh no, that one’s not here anymore.
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She’s gone. Yeah, and it’s just a very emotional place. It wasn’t like I walked around the house.
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No Sobbing.
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But some people do yeah.
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And it’s okay, they mourn.
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Like really, I say there’s no right or wrong way to feel about when your kid is no longer living in your space, like some of us are like yes, yeah, you know you’re moving on, you’re getting to the next place you met my younger one, you’d be going.
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yeah, she’s excited.
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Yeah, I’m excited because yeah.
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I mean well, I’m excited for her.
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And you’re excited, I kind of have to go.
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I’m kind of like let’s have a new job, okay, this 20 something years.
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I’m tired Because this is your last one. Now, my last one.
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You’re ready, you know she’s ready and it’s so exciting because she’s ready and I’m seeing that more and more every day. Kim and I were just talking because we both have seniors this year and they’re ready and you’re just like, oh, I just need you to go because you’re yearning for it. You’re so good at flying, you know. It’s like that whole nest metaphor, this baby bird, she is like out there doing tricks in the sky.
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She’s so ready to be out there on her own and for some of them like that you almost was graduation was in December, because they’re ready at that point.
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They’re just so done.
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But then the flip side of it is for me.
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I try to remind myself to enjoy all of these last moments of years that they’re getting to do and not just think of it as okay.
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Check that box. Because you get into that mode of you’re tired and there’s so much and you’re like, oh, thank goodness, that’s over, that’s the last time I have to do whatever. You know, it’s kind of like when they start driving. I remember the last time I drove out of the high school parking lot thinking I don’t have to do this anymore, and it was kind of exciting because I didn’t have to deal with the crazy traffic, with the kids who don’t look in any of their mirrors and they just pull out and drive like crazy.
But there was also a moment of. I miss those conversations that we had in the car. There was two school on the way home when it was just the two of us. I miss that part of it, but I don’t miss the high school driver traffic. So it’s those things that you want to enjoy. You don’t just want to check the box and move on, but you have to see that your kid is ready to move on and you’re preparing them for this next phase, and yourself as well.
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That’s what I’m going to say.
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I’m sitting here as a freshman, you know, mama, and I’m like tell me how to prepare for this emotionally. Well, I just think, how do I grow that?
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because you’ve done this thing, you’ve grown this thing up, and it’s almost counterintuitive because all you’ve done for you know 18 plus years, because you think about that, those months that you were pregnant to is you have been attached, attached, attached and you’re doing something like, oh, but I have to let you go. And so it’s a very interesting place, especially for a mom, dad, to get there too, just just so you know. And dad’s go through their own things in their own way, and it’s, you know, it’s.
I remember my mom saying that when I was on the eldest and when I went to college, my dad was like I don’t think she’s ready, I don’t think she’s ready, and my mom’s like she’s ready, she’s so ready. And then it flipped when my brother, who is just a few years younger, went. She’s like I don’t think he’s ready, my dad knows he’s so ready, and so it’s just kind of that, that opposite thing, and so, yeah, but dad’s go through their own stuff. Be aware of that. If you’re a mom listening, your husband’s going through something, or your child’s father if you’re, if you’re no longer married, but so everybody’s going through something.
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I think that’s a part of the process, it is. It is Knowing, like you said, how do I prepare emotionally, knowing that there’s no right?
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or wrong way to feel. Yeah.
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You’re completely valid in the way, however, you handle it, and dad’s going to handle it different than the way you handle it. Yeah, I think communicating with each other about what you’re feeling is really important at that time, because he’s over there going. Why are you walking around the house sobbing and there’s no one here? You know, like you have to know what the other one is feeling and talk through it, and also for younger siblings.
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Yes, we talked about that. I mean they’ll hold a dynamic. I mean they get real excited for a minute.
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It’s excited at first when she’s about to move out or he’s about to move out and they’re like can I have that room? Can we turn it into a? You know whatever, I’m going to have so much bathroom space.
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Yes.
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I’m not sure about that. But then, like my oldest comes home and she’s always so like she loves how much her little brother comes in like, gives her a big hug and like, hey, you’re home, I miss you. She’s like, oh, he misses me, you know like it’s just a different. It’s a different at the dinner table now there’s less people sitting there. It’s like that little spot.
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Well, and their favorite foods. I mean, I think about my kids and how some of them I tweet dinner sometimes because one of them doesn’t like anything or allergies or whatever. That whole thing changes.
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Like there’s so many little things you don’t think about. You don’t buy as much food.
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Yeah.
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You just I mean, and then you know, my youngest one’s getting ready to go to college, so there will be like no food in our house.
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Yeah, there will be crackers Right, take out and yes, yes, crackers and salad, that’s what happens when you have an empty nest. Right, you can afford to eat out.
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No, because they’re gonna take all your money to the school, or if they’re in the military. You’re still trying to pad. That Money is just going to different place. Yeah, and that’s.
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I think we’ve been talking a lot about college, but Holly and I had this conversation. Your child may move out of your space and go into the workforce and get an apartment or they may go into the military. There’s very all different situations, but they’re still not in your space and you’re still parenting.
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that yes, and we’re even talking about there. If your child goes to college, maybe in the town that you live in or the city that you live in or very, very nearby, they’re still, even if they lived in there in the dorms, et cetera. They’re out of your home and they’re with different people and things that you don’t know about. You haven’t. You know, in high school, often we’re around their friends. We know their friends’ parents. They may have been there for quite some time often, so we know their environment to a certain extent. Right, there’s no teachers or coaches or whomever. But when they go off to wherever, you don’t know what that environment is like. You don’t know those new people, and that’s a lot of trust, you know. This brings up a good point that I feel like we talk a lot at.
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nextTalk is, you know, teach your kid to listen to the Holy Spirit, because you’re not always there. Like you need to be doing this in middle school, in high school, because sometimes they’ll come home and they’ll ask you what should I do in this situation? And you can, yes, give them tips and advice, but in reality you don’t know the entire situation. And it’s a great opportunity for you to say what do you think God is asking you to do? Like you gotta listen to the Holy Spirit, because this is about prepping this early so that when they are around a whole new set of people completely out of your space, you’re like they got Jesus in them. They’re gonna be okay, because you know there may be some missteps and they may not always get it right, just like us?
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Oh, they won’t. They won’t wanna get it right.
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They won’t make mistakes, just like we do.
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They will make so many mistakes.
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But you know that you’ve taught them to listen to that inner voice of Jesus and then to help navigate.
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Culture of conversation, open communication that we talk about here at nextTalk, that you want to start as early as you possibly can, so when they’re on their own and they’re not with you, when they’re in high school and they’re going all over the place. They’re not with you a lot during high school, especially when they get to the age of sorry and they’re driving age, you know.
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I have noticed that a lot this year. I mean we’re new to high school. But I said to my husband the other day I’m so glad we trust her and that she’s shown us these good decisions that she’s made in little situations that have occurred over in middle school, because I would be a nervous wreck if I didn’t trust her at this point and it’s important to voice that to her.
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To voice that to your kiddo. When you see them doing something the right way, handling things the right way, the way you’ve taught them trusting that Holy Spirit and handling things, it’s important to let them know hey, you’re doing a great job.
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And I’m so proud of you Because oftentimes they will come back and remind you but mom, I’m a really good kid. It’s like, yes, yes, yes, I know you are. They love to remind us how awesome they are.
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Well, I know we are at a really big high school and it was intimidating to me and I really wanted my kid to consider a smaller private school. I’m not gonna lie, I was like, just for the numbers alone.
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You know, that’s what I was afraid of.
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It’s just a little overcrowded and we’re building more in our district and it’s just a process, a growing pain process. But she came to me and she was like listen, I really wanna go here. And I thought and I said to her you showed me in middle school that you made really good decisions, that you were gonna listen to Jesus, and so I’m gonna trust that. But the minute you start feeling like this is not my place or you start feeling uncomfortable, you gotta come to me, you gotta promise me.
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Right, it’s okay, I have a plan B.
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It was that whole, and I don’t think that I would have been there and we would have had that conversation without having you guys speak so much into my life about how to really help this.
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Right and cultivate this and help someone to tell you what’s coming up.
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Kim is not in the studio with us today, but we have two other nextTalk team members here, another Kim we call her K-In Kim Nichols and Holly Bristol, and they are kind of like our high school college leaders. They have older kids and we’re doing a show called Out of the Nest today and they are just giving us some really great tips on how to prepare ourselves really emotionally for this whole them leaving the house thing. So we’ve kind of covered. I love what you said, kim. You said savor the moments, because they do go fast, even though there’s some things you’re gonna be like. I thank the Lord I never have to do this again. Still, still, you know, just appreciate all those moments.
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Yeah, it’s a transition. Just like you know, you weren’t real sad when you got rid of that last diaper pale.
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Yeah.
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And you weren’t real sad when you didn’t have to strap your kid in the car anymore. Or like it could get themselves in and out of the car seat or brush their teeth.
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That was a big one for me.
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I hated brushing my kid’s teeth, so it’s getting tying there. But you know, so those are, we have. You still have those when they are 17, 18. You’re still going to be having those things and that’s just another life transition.
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But when they’re out of your home, you’re just parenting them in a different way in a different style and knowing when to step in and when not to and let them handle stuff on their own becomes bigger, so that what we were talking about earlier about trusting them yeah, and talking about it before they’re out there You’re not going to remember every single scenario and cover every conversation before they’re out of your house. There’s going to be things that pop up along the way that they’re like what do I do? And calling home or calling mind. I always know when it’s something a little more serious, because dad gets the phone call If it’s an emotionally maced question.
I get it If it’s financial or my check won’t deposit on my phone, what do I do? You know that goes to dad, but knowing when to step in and when I say that I do not by any means mean helicopter parent or kid in college I’ve seen it done, Even in high school. Even in high school, I mean, we talk about it all you know from little bitty Don’t helicopter. But when they get into college I think it’s really important to let them. Sometimes they need to trip and stumble.
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They need to struggle.
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I want to let them go, just to fall in their face. You still want to be a little bit of a support system and safety net and answer those questions, but at the same time, there’s some learning experiences there that we all know. I feel like I always try to put myself back in that space of what it felt like to be that college kid for the first time and all those feelings and everything that I had and things I was trying to handle on my own.
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Yeah, and if you’re a mom or dad and you’re calling a professor or you’re trying to call a commander and being a 20-year military spouse. Don’t call a commander as a mom going. I don’t think this is fair, for you know it’s like no no, don’t do that, and professors are going to kind of laugh at you and may come down harder on your child. This is your child, it belongs to them. They’re a young adult. Let them pass or fail.
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You know, I think I stopped emailing teachers in middle school. I think that was a thing when I was like you got to email her if you or him you got to figure it out. But you’ve got to let them figure this stuff out. We also have a helicopter show. I would say go listen to that. We also have a snow plow show, you know, the bulldozer, lawn mower, snow plow, those are all the same thing.
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It means you remove all the obstacles out of their path. You can’t be those parents for your college or just out of your home military or whatever but you know what If you’re a helicopter and snow plow parent?
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when they’re in your home, they expect that.
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They expect it. They don’t know how to do it.
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Again. That’s why it’s so important to start these principles so early.
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So they understand, I’m going to have to figure this out my oldest, who’s in college. She actually has started to want to take on more of her own, like she’s working. She’s like, ok, I want to start paying for my own phone and she already pays for her own gas and stuff. She’s amazing. She’s wanting to take more on, like we actually had to put the brakes on a little bit and go OK, you don’t want to just take everything at one time. Let’s take this one step at a time and you can start paying for this and if you handle that.
Well then we’ll give you sent meals. We love the direction you’re going. You’re not going hey, send me more money. Yes, but we also had to remind you OK, those things that you’re paying for out of your paycheck, that’s school supplies, and we have a fund for that.
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And just to transfer the money.
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And you don’t have to take on everything, and it depends on your kiddo’s personality. I’m also parenting a kiddo who’s on his own, graduated, got a job, apartment, paying his own bills, all those things. He wasn’t my birth child, he was gifted to me from another mother, but my husband and I are still guiding that and it’s a very different situation, because he wants to just handle it all by himself and so when we start to see him stumble, we have to step in Same kind of thing, not helicoptering and taking everything on and doing everything for him, but teaching him what he needs, like walking him through it, walking him through it Because they’re young adults but in a lot of ways they’re still kids and they’re much they need to be taught, they have to be taught.
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It can’t be just well, why didn’t you know this? Or some things are not common sense. Some things are practical and must be explained almost with bullet points Like this is step one, step two, step three. This is how you do this and it’s like oh, no-transcript, you know saying why didn’t you know this? You know you have to think when you get into a car, you have to know what is step one, step two. And it’s the exact same thing with so many things in life, right and some of it’s just yes, they haven’t had experience with it.
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Yes, exactly, and we all do that, we’re all still learning in different areas when we step into something that we’ve had no experience with. We may not know what to do and need someone to guide us, Like a radio show.
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Like we’re just learning as we go people.
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Hey, you’re an old pro now right?
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It’s like having coffee with friends hopefully, yes, always Just sitting here figuring it out.
0:20:05 – Speaker 3
Well, I’ve said before, we even had the radio show. Do you all remember? I would say, oh my gosh, like everybody needs what you guys are giving to me. You know, and vice versa, like we see this trickle down effect for helping people.
You know a couple years behind us, because we know what’s coming we know what’s important, we know what they need to be guided to, and so it’s just such an asset to have that kind of tribe. Sure, you know, I was thinking about my daughter. She’s a freshman and I remember, with Holly, I had gone to her over the summer and I said, okay, we’ve got this whole college plan for my kid and we are in our house, we have chosen that she’s gonna be expected to play a certain percentage of that income and that can be, you know, her savings. That can be alone, that can be whatever, but we want her to have some stake in the game. And that comes from a personal history of me and my husband. I had a lot of personal stake. He didn’t, and he didn’t take it very seriously when he didn’t have personal stake in the game. And so he’s like we gotta work it out because you know we’ll Different places, yeah. And so I went to Holly and I was like okay, she’s going into high school, I’m ready to set her down and like explain, like what we’re gonna do. And Holly was like you’re moving in the right direction, but don’t do it as a freshman, because she’s getting ready to walk into a big high school and she needs a minute, you know before.
But what was so cool? Holly said once she starts getting her first job, that’s a great time to talk about the finances Right. And you gave me a great tip too. You were like right now, though, go ahead and get her own debit card Right and let her and don’t link it to your account so that it’s unlimited funds have it be separate. But she has a certain amount of money, so when she needs to pay friends for gas or she’s going to the homecoming, whatever, but like kind of teach her to manage a little budget, yeah. But then you said, when she gets her first job, then you can have the bigger financial conversations, because she’s gonna understand I work this much, I get this much money. She’s gonna kind of see the bigger picture. What has been super cool. I’m so glad I waited first of all to have that conversation. Yay, now in high school she’s seeing all these kids with jobs and she comes home and she’s like that is so cool.
Like they have to leave theater early and then they work and she’s like excited for that responsibility now because she sees her peers doing it.
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It’s suddenly cool.
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It is actually cool.
0:22:28 – Speaker 1
Like we’ll go Encourage her to get the job while it’s still cool. I know right, Like we’ll go Well I think.
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What made me think of it was when you said your daughter is like she wants to pay for things now and I’m already kind of seeing that, Like I’m seeing her want to be a little more independent.
0:22:44 – Speaker 4
They want the ownership over their own life, and that is what you’re all through high school. What you’re working for is ownership of their own life and, as parents, it is an honor that we can give that to them. That’s honoring your child.
0:22:56 – Speaker 1
Yeah.
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And that I can give you ownership over your own life. Go, take it, go get it. I’m right here, you are in charge of it. I’m here supporting you, loving you, guiding you while you’re in my home, and so once you’re kind of out of my nest doing whatever it is you’re doing, you have ownership. You already understand what that feels like to hold it in your hands. You’ve held it with me holding you. Now you can hold it on your own. Yeah, that’s so good.
0:23:21 – Speaker 1
That’s so good. And when we were talking about the emotional part earlier, one thing that Holly and I talked about was making sure you don’t put your emotions on your kids. Oh, that’s good Like it would be so easy for me to call and go. I miss you so much and cry to her over the phone.
0:23:37 – Speaker 3
Kind of guilt trip them for leaving. Oh yeah, I mean you don’t mean to, you don’t mean it that way You’re just like that’s what they hear.
0:23:42 – Speaker 1
You think you’re telling them how much you love them and miss them, but really you’re putting your emotions on them. I think that’s the way we already talked earlier about how they’ve got all kinds of stress and anxiety and excitement and all the emotions going on for themselves.
You don’t want to put that your emotions on them. So and there’s sometimes when she’ll text me and I can tell she’s had a horrible day and the project went, and she’s like I am not in a good place and I can tell the tears are coming and instead I could very easily say, oh, I wish you were here, I’d give you a big hug and come home this weekend, and you know. But I instead I try to validate hey, it sounds like you’ve had a really bad day and you’ve done everything you possibly could to get it right and now all you can do is maybe go talk to the professor and see what other advice she might get. But hey, kiddo, we are so proud of how hard you’re working.
0:24:32 – Speaker 4
Just kind of build her up a little bit. I’m up tomorrow. This is a game killer.
0:24:36 – Speaker 1
Take a shower relax, get something to eat, and tomorrow you can tackle it again and I can tell by the end of it she’s feeling a little stronger and a little better about it, rather than me crying along with her and just sort of wallowing in it. So you kind of have to remember they’ve got their own emotions going on and you don’t want to put your own stuff on them or make it worse.
0:24:55 – Speaker 4
It’s about moving them forward in just everyday life. Just keep going forward. Don’t stay stuck in this place for one bad day, and enjoy these moments with them too.
0:25:05 – Speaker 1
Enjoy watching them become more independent and watching them. It’s a beautiful thing to watch If you don’t hover over them too much and you just let them go and you keep supporting them a little bit and letting them go a little bit more and a little bit more. It’s a beautiful relationship and a beautiful thing to watch. It’s really happy.
0:25:20 – Speaker 4
It’s really fun. It’s so much fun. I love it.
0:25:23 – Speaker 3
We don’t have anything to dread, guys. No, no, no, no. This is a good, cool transition, very cool. Ok, thank you, guys for being here. We’re going to have you on another show because there’s a lot more to cover Always.
0:25:34 – Speaker 2
Thanks for joining us on nextTalk Radio with Mandy and Kim on AM630, the Word. You are not alone, trying to figure out how to parent in this digital world. We are here with practical solutions to help you. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Find our free video series and podcast at nextTalk.org. Are you ready for the nextTalk?
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