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Have you noticed a gradual shift in the way your family unwinds, connects or socializes? Today we’re doing a show on our screens changing your family culture. Oh, my goodness gracious.
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Everybody’s like yeah, yeah, oh, yeah, oh yeah.
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They’re changing everything. They’re changing everything, they’re changing.
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Mealtime.
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I mean, they’re even changing how we go through the drive-thru. You get the app now. You order ahead of time. Yes, you do door dash.
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You have it delivered to you At church. Now they’re always saying take a picture of the screen, pull up the app for the Bible study. You are sounded old. Right now I am, i’m ancient, i’m so old, my gosh.
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Everything’s changing. I mean, kids aren’t dating the way they used to date. There’s no going on a first date. It’s DMing through Snapchat to see if the kids are interested in each other and if then, if they’re interested for a couple months, maybe it’s gonna be an ice cream date. I mean, everything’s changing.
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It is They’re affecting every part of our life, some good things, but some in ways that have snuck up on us and maybe we’re like I don’t know that I really like this so much.
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Maybe we need to reevaluate. I think that happens a lot.
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Okay, i’m gonna tell you one of my pet peeves. Okay, here’s something maybe you can relate to. I hear this a lot from other moms too. Their husband comes home, you know, there’s homework, there’s a dinnertime brush, there’s all the things that happen at the end of the day. You know. Finally you get the kids to go to bed and you have a minute to talk And you walk back into the living room or the bedroom and your husband’s on his phone. So me, i do this thing Like I’m kind of ashamed, but this is how it plays out, you’re starting to sweat.
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I know I’m sweating. You’re like it’s confession time.
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It’s confession time. This is what I do, Like I kind of my husband. he’ll sit on the bed and he’ll like have his phone, And I’ll like crawl up in the bed.
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What are you wearing? What are you wearing this time?
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I’m wearing my shirt from Columbia in New York that has holes in it and I look homeless From like 16 years ago.
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Yeah, it’s like 25 years ago. It’s so bad.
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I look homeless And you’re playing all Yes, okay, so you’re crawling up, i’m a homeless lady crawling into bed with my husband And I like kind of inch up there like hoping he’ll put the phone down and say hello, but he’s still like doing something, probably because I look homeless And maybe you need to spice it up a bit. I need to like wear real PJs. I think that’s a thing, or not even real PJs, oh I mean you’re going there, I don’t know You’re going there, we’ll talk, we’ll talk later.
Anyway, i need some tips, so I’ll give him a chance. You know, I’ll lean up next to him and I’ll be like so what you doing? Like real awkward, like I never talk, like that, what you doing.
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That sounds like like an 80-point, i know, but I do this.
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It’s so weird.
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Inside, though, I’m like why are you on your phone? Why don’t you pay attention to?
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me Like I’m yelling, but I’m trying to be cool about it.
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You’re trying to be sweet and you come out like an 84-odd lady.
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I do, a homeless 84-year-old, so what?
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happens, how does he respond? And I’m curious now.
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Well, usually he’s like oh, i’m just unwinding for a minute, or I got this email from my boss and I have to respond right now Like it’s nothing bad. But for some reason in my mind I feel like that phone should be put away and you should be paying 100% of your attention to me immediately when I walk in the room.
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Well, because if you’re like Matt and I, you guys probably only have 30 minutes a day where he actually looks at you during the week.
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Yes, I mean seriously Yes, It’s so crazy So crazy and busy, so I get it. But what I probably should have said is hey, remember, when we’ve been talking about this in the past And this is like our, our time maybe you could put that. but I’m not saying that because I’ve let it kind of slip through the cracks over time and we haven’t gone back to revisit the conversation and then I’m just mad about it.
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And I’m you know what I’m thinking about our vulnerability show last time.
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I know.
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Last time we did our vulnerability show. Go back and listen to that, because I’m kind of thinking about how you know it feels silly to say I want you to pay attention to me over the phone, Yeah, But it’s literally like a feeling that we need to say in a calm manner, not accusatory, not being mean, not, you’re crazy and always on your phone, but just like, hey, I feel like your phone’s more important than me. Can we talk about this And that?
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has changed for so many, because before, not even just like five years ago, my husband would be reading or he’d be exercising or just hanging out, but the phone has changed the way that he unwinds in the evening. I had a mom tell me the other day that they set up family guidelines for eating dinner at the table. You know years ago that that’s just not something that they did. Or eating dinner at the table, eating dinner at the table with screens, like you know, they didn’t. They said we’re not going to do that, we’re going to leave our screens off the table.
It’s something we talk about here a lot at nextTalk. The other day she said they were out to dinner, they had gone to like have a little outing together as a family and they have older kids. And she said she went to the bathroom and she came back and she sat down and it was really quiet And she looked around and she realized every single person in her family was on a screen. It was like they are engaged in their own little world. And she said my heart just sank Cause I realized it had kind of gradually happened and we hadn’t really talked about it and reintroduced the subject And here they were that family that she never wanted to be.
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So where I go with that is. I literally think I bet while she was gone somebody said hey, do giraffes do this? And then everybody grabs the phone to like get the pictures and get the answer to it.
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to the trivia part And then you get on a trail and you keep going.
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But then you have an outsider looking in and they’re like there, I did do their phones.
Well, no, they were having a conversation Which led to a trivia question and they all needed to go and look it up, and I don’t know if you’ve noticed this, but I have noticed this. So we, you know, we have that rule no screens at mealtimes, and when we go out to eat, it’s the same thing. This just happened, like literally two weeks ago. We went out to eat with our family, so we had my mom, my in-laws, we were all there, like it was all of us And my husband had a work issue come up. So at the dinner, at the lunch table, he pulls out his phone and he’s like trying to work on this work issue, right, well, he doesn’t communicate it to anybody, yes, so my son sees it. He leans over to my mom and says hey, can I use your phone? Well, grandma, of course, yes.
Whatever you want sweetie, We’re doing the Snapchat. So he gets on his phone and he starts playing Wheel of Fortune on her phone. So then my teenager sees it and she’s like well, Ryla’s on her phone, I’m gonna get my phone out, so I’m sitting there and the waiter comes up Right And I look around and I thought I said it really quietly, i was like major’s family.
When did we stop using our rule of no phones at the lunch table? And my husband looks up and he says, oh honey, i’m so sorry, i have a work issue. And then my son says, well, i was on it because dad was on it. And my team said, well, she’s on it. And the waiter looks at me and he goes go, mom, you get him. And I almost got up and high five him Because I was like, but it was like a trickle thing, nobody was on their phone until my husband.
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And then when a parent does it then the kids think it’s okay.
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But I talked to my husband after and I’m like listen, I get it, you had a work issue. Either step away or just tell everybody at the table, because we all assume that you’re just tuning us all out.
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That’s what it feels like. That is what it feels like And it just for me. It just pushes my buttons Like we are right here.
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Yes, just communicate it if you have something And I’m just as guilty. I do it all the time Like I’ll get a quick text from you And I’ll think I can respond really fast. I don’t need to tell anybody, and then my husband will see me under the table. What are you doing? I’m like I just have a work issue. Real quick, he’s communicated to me.
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I mean I’m just as bad. Well, it just becomes one of those things Like I have found myself often like literally going through my day, you know, because we homeschool part of the week and so we’re at home a lot And I’ll find myself like my phone is glued into my hand Do you know what I’m saying? Like I’m walking around and I haven’t put my phone down one time. Like it becomes an appendage, like an extra arm, and it has changed the culture of even just the way that I operate. Like where’s my phone? Where’s my phone? I always need to have it on me. And then, for adults, sometimes it feels like an escape. You can connect to your friends at any time. You’re stressed, you can play, you know jewels, like there’s so many things that you can do And we’re so used to being able to access everything at the drop of a hat. Oh, you don’t know how to spell that word. Let me just do that for you real quick. Let me ask Siri, let me ask you Oh, where is that place? I don’t know.
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Let me find your answer. I don’t know If you have a teenager. Yeah, i mean, if there’s anything I don’t know, she Googles it. Yes, and I am like dude, we don’t. That may not even have the right answer, but that is what the culture that they’re growing up in. Hey, do you use screen time?
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That’s what I was going to ask you Yes.
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I do OK. So those not familiar with screen time it’s a new Apple product, it’s free, it’s on your. It’s an upgrade, like when you do your updates. Yeah, it’s free, it’s under the settings section and it’s screen time And it will literally tell you. It’ll give you a weekly report on how much time you’re spending on your screen.
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It’s shocking, it’s convicting.
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I mean, i do a lot of work on social media for work, but even I was shocked at mine. My daughter saw mine and she was like mom, yours is like triple mine, like you got a problem. So we kind of like keep track of that now but, like you said, it just is in your hand glued and before you know it it’s like did I ever put this down today? Did I even put my phone down today?
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Yes, so it just all these spaces under our roof and in our life and as we go along. Screens have changed the culture of what used to be different And, let’s be honest, i mean we could be on our phones all day if we didn’t have anybody watching us or if we weren’t thinking about it. So, really, what do we do here? How do we embrace the good things about technology without allowing it to completely overtake the good things we wanna preserve in our family culture? How do we find that balance? I think point number one is probably just the easiest one, but it’s something we forget to do. It’s never too late to establish or adjust family guidelines.
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Bottom line Yeah, and this may just be. We need a reset. Yes, you know, especially over spring break. This spring break we didn’t travel and we were like we’re gonna, just we need the downtime right. And by day three I had noticed we were all kind of going to the corners of our house and everybody was on their own screen because we just had some downtime.
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Just needed a minute.
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Yes, And I’m like, wait a minute. is this the new norm when we’re having downtime? Right?
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Again, that’s what I’m thinking about New norm.
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I pulled my kids together and I was like listen, it’s fine to be on screen, sun, but we gotta reset here. Like let’s pop out some board games, let’s go on a walk, like let’s do things we used to do. And of course that first they were like mom, you’re nextTalking me. I get that all the time You’re nextTalking me. But you know, halfway through the walk they’re like oh, this is fun, it feels good to get out.
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It feels good to get some.
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So sometimes it’s just we need a reset, guys. Absolutely. We’ve kind of fallen into this pattern. that’s not healthy And we need to just get out of it.
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And I’m gonna say something hard here Uh-oh.
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It’s gonna hurt.
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I think most of the time it starts with us 100% Right. I mean cause. I like being connected to my friends on the phone And I like, you know, downtime and being doing my own thing. But if I’m not setting that example and if I’m not taking a minute to look at what am I doing differently? How can I model this for my kids? How can I help this reset? It’s not gonna happen.
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I just went to this graduation party and all these teenagers were there. None of them were on their phone. They were all talking. Guess who was on the phone, parents.
All of the moms, the parents were sitting at the tables on their phones. But the teenagers were up. I didn’t see one with their phone, unless they were taking a picture together or something. They were talking And I thought, you know, we blame the teenagers for it, it’s us, it really is us. It really is Because the teenagers are aware I mean they really, i mean even my teenagers. She will be like mom. I went to lunch today and like three people were wouldn’t even talk to me because they were on their phone, but they noticed, they noticed it.
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They’re aware of what’s going on Well and I think it’s real easy when we realize, okay, something’s not right, Our culture is changing in a way that I think is not healthy. We need to shift or reset. It’s real easy to go crazy all of a sudden Cause we default to that, and be like throw all the trains out, get off your phone, throw them out, turn it off in the middle of the game, like all of those great things that we do. I’m being sarcastic.
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Yeah, that’s not great. That’s not great at all, that’s gonna hurt the relationship.
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It’s gonna hurt the relationship. I would say think of it as a process. Take a step back for a minute and think okay, let me see some real examples So I don’t just sound like a crazy person. Don’t panic. Take a little bit of inventory, set the crazy parent spouse mode aside, ask God to show you what’s going on, what would be a healthy balance, and then sit down And it’s always good to ask questions. My kids a lot of times notice the things that I notice and I think they’re not gonna know what I’m talking about And they’re feeling the same way. I’ll say what do you guys think about what’s going on? And they’ll be like we’ve been on our screens too much or we’ve been doing this, we’ve been not doing the things that are important, we haven’t played any games lately, and then it makes the conversation real easy And together you come up with the reset and the back to the family culture that you’re wanting. It’s not just about you saying what you’re doing is wrong and it’s gotta stop.
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Well, what I like to do, too, is say to my son he’s a big gamer, and I’ll say hey, how’s this making you feel? Do you feel anxious and angry And like you wanna hit the wall right now, cause that’s maybe not the best place to be? Like point it out to them and kind of make them realize.
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This is making me like that It can be a great series of conversations. Like you’re saying, it can be over dinner, it can be one on one, so you’re pointing out some of the behaviors that you’re seeing in one of your kids. It can be with your spouse being vulnerable, like hey, i feel like we just don’t get a lot of time to have quiet conversation anymore. I really miss that. So this is a whole series of conversations. It’s a process that can really transform things if you don’t lose your mind.
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So we’re talking about screens changing your family culture. It kind of sneaks up on you Even if you’ve set these guidelines and it’s something that you talk about. it just changes sometimes.
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Can I also just interject here?
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Yes.
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It’s easier for all your kids to be on a screen.
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Yes, girl, it’s easier, Especially when they’re young and loud and you just need a minute.
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I didn’t call us too easy. I mean he just didn’t. And I’m not saying there are times when I need a minute and they all. I mean I work from home, so, especially during the summer, they are on screen, some because I’m working. But when I’m done with my work for the day, i don’t then go watch a Netflix series and let them go the rest of the day on screens. It’s like, okay, i’m done with work. What are we going to do? We’re going swimming. We’re going to go take a walk. What are we going to do? Yes, we don’t want anybody to feel convicted, but we got to have a balance here.
We’ve got to because God didn’t call us too easy and we can’t take the easy way out and screens cannot become a babysitter.
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Absolutely And a substitute for us And I’m just doing it. It just can’t. I’m going to say, speak into something someone might be saying right now Well, i cannot entertain kids 24, seven. That’s true, you do not have to entertain your kids. Kids did things before screens without you, and they can do them now. They can play outside, they can play games.
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Build forts. Kids can build. Kids do that all the time. I do too. My house is like crazy for our kids.
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Just last night was making slime We had work to do.
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We had work. We were like you guys do something They made slime together.
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I’m amazed when I have my kids turn off the screens and they’re complaining.
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Oh yeah, oh, at first they are, it’s easier to just sit there to be entertained.
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Yeah, yes, but I’m telling you, if I just say, you’ll find something, i don’t have to figure it out, i don’t have to entertain them. They always do. The other day my son wrote a song. I was like what in the world is happening? He literally sat down and wrote a praise and worship song. That’s amazing.
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Isn’t that crazy, that’s amazing.
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My other son built this whole Lego boost thing. It’s like a robot, i mean truly. if you allow them the space to be creative, i promise you you don’t have to entertain them all the time. They can do it themselves.
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If you push them a little, then they’ll go. They may be irritating at first and they may be coming to you. I need some ideas. I’m going to throw out a couple and then push them into that space. They need some creativity.
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So with younger kids, set those clear guidelines If you haven’t already. Revisit them often role model and remind older kids it’s great to have a reset. Just have great conversation about it. Get them involved. I just got to say this. I know nobody wants to hear this if they’re a grandparent, but me and grandparents can be the worst You know adults moms and dads and grandparents.
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we just don’t realize. I think our kids are growing up in the world, so they’re becoming aware that it’s taking over their lives. I mean, it’s just part of their lives. It’s not even a takeover, but for us it’s like new.
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So we’re all excited about it When grandparents have more time without kids in that space, so they’re just really like in it.
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So when they visit your kids or they keep your kids or whatever, they’re used to sitting around all night and being on Facebook and responding and they need to understand, okay, but when the kids are there, it’s time, it’s family time, and so we have a great show. We do, we have them. We have them, we have them, we have them.
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Grandparents need to know. Yes, and then, even when you’re having these conversations with your spouse, we’ve got from fighting to talking and what I should have said was those are some things that help you to have honest conversation with your spouse about how you’re feeling. And so when it’s brought on by the cyber tech I mean the tech issues like they’re on their phone too much or whatever it will help you bring up the conversation in a healthy way.
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And, like you said, in a healthy way, be calm about this. Don’t call your mom or your in-law and yell at them because they’ve been on screens or whatever. Just say, hey, i know this is different than when you grew up. Can we talk about this Like?
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include them.
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Can we have some guidelines for when they’re at your house? We don’t want everybody just on a screen. Let’s move into the next point.
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Yes, Setting the example. We’ve got to be the example And avoid becoming the changed police.
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Yes.
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We, that’s hard, This is hard. This kind of goes back to what I was, that story I was telling earlier, where you know you want to be like what are you doing?
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No phones at the table.
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Like always going back to the guideline and getting kind of crazy about it. But really, if you’ve had some good conversations and you’re feeling good and hopeful that you’ve got this new normal going back to where you’ve wanted to be, you got to give people a minute.
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I remember one time my son was at the kitchen island doing homework and I was on my phone And I was an only dishwasher. I was doing all the things right, Multitasking as we do all the time.
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All the time.
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He kept asking me how to spell something And I was literally texting and I was like Baba, give me a minute. Everything went quiet. Yeah, everything went quiet, and I knew in the moment that I shouldn’t have had my phone and that I was being a bad example.
And here I was yelling at him And what he said next crushed me. He said I’m sorry that I’m bothering you while you’re texting. Yeah, all the things. Yeah, i was so overtaken with emotion, like I was so mad at myself. I literally just grabbed the dog leash and I was like I gotta walk. I gotta go take a walk right now, cause I literally was walking down my street saying God, i’m the worst parent ever. Like this is awful. And so, you know, god, in his gentle nudge, said just go apologize. I need you to be the model here. They need to learn this about you And that way, when they mess up on their screens, they’ll come and apologize to you.
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Yeah, Right, we gotta be the model.
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This is what you’re saying here We gotta be the change We wanna. I mean, we gotta do this, we gotta set the example. And so I went back in, i apologize And I said, from here on out, when we’re doing homework, i’m not having my phone in the room. This is a new world for me. It’s a mom role, right. And I stuck to that And he saw me do that. He saw me make a mistake and apologize and fix it.
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And change. yes, And change.
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And if there ever came a time when I needed to be on my phone or there was a work emergency, i would say it to him. I would be like, okay, i’m waiting on a call. I’m gonna keep it in my back pocket, you know, but just communicate that. But we got to set the example.
0:21:31 – Speaker 3
We have to set the example And then we do have to be gracious within that, because people still make mistakes And it’s real easy to be like you said or we talked about, or we decided, but really We go back into our old patterns. We go back into those old patterns And I just wanna say avoid jumping on everybody. You are on the same team, you know. Extend that grace that you would want if you messed up just like you, mandy, like you know, when that situation comes up, where he messes up, instead of being like oh, i changed, i put my phone away. You know what that felt like You can extend that grace to him and help that be a learning encouragement. We’re on the same team, trying to do better. No one’s perfect. We’re just trying to do better every single day. You know, I think being stern is important and holding each other accountable is important, but just don’t be crazy And always goes back to that balance.
0:22:21 – Speaker 2
Well, and sometimes grace. I have one of my kids. They just beat themselves up when they do something bad. I mean it’s just over and over And I just wanna be like dude. It wasn’t that bad Get over it.
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Yes, you’re fine.
0:22:33 – Speaker 2
But you know, sometimes with that child, when they are just beating themselves up for something they didn’t, sometimes when I just go up and hug them and say I love you. I don’t even address the issue, they will literally just melt in my arms. And it’s like I just needed that.
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Yes.
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And so you gotta know your kid too. Some kids you gotta be stern with because they’re not listening and you gotta, you know, not be crazy.
0:22:57 – Speaker 3
But you gotta be stern.
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You gotta say you know what, when you come home today you’re checking your phone in because you don’t have the balance figured out yet, or you’re only getting one hour on gaming and I’m gonna monitor this cause you can’t do it on your own yet And I need you to move. Some kids you have to be stern, like that. Other kids you gotta be careful, because they’re super sensitive and they beat themselves up more than we’re mad at them. That’s so true.
0:23:17 – Speaker 3
Like knowing your kids and finding the balance And you know. the last thing I wanna say, and I think we might get a little pushback here, because some people will say well, you’re letting it in.
0:23:24 – Speaker 1
We always get pushed back. We do, we’re pushed on.
0:23:27 – Speaker 3
Create some new culture, it is okay. Change is okay. I think you just have to be careful what this looks like Like. if your kids loved a game like yours and mine, find a time that you can join them. You know what I mean.
0:23:39 – Speaker 2
I love that We’ve had some great family time Like all four of us. Yes, playing Mario Kart together.
0:23:44 – Speaker 3
I mean, we have Wheel of Fortune. Are you smart? Are you the fifth grader? We have all these games that we can play together and it’s so much fun. And so sometimes, instead of being like turn it off, I’m like what can we do together?
0:23:56 – Speaker 2
Yes, You know, my fear is the kid that goes up to their bedroom and has access for 12 hours at a time. That’s what we’re. That’s not okay. But you know, if your kid spends an hour or two or three on a screen and then you have some family time on a screen, that’s the new culture that we’re, because screens are a part of our life. They mean to know how to maneuver this and handle it.
0:24:20 – Speaker 3
I love which is funny because you have an older daughter your new Twitter relationship.
0:24:27 – Speaker 2
I love it. My kid got Twitter. Yes, oh my gosh, it’s so fun. It’s so fun when you move into that space.
0:24:34 – Speaker 3
Yeah, so you know you can be on social media with them.
0:24:37 – Speaker 2
Yeah, and I mean now we’re talking politics a lot because she’s in that space. She’s like I never knew it was this political on Twitter, And so we’re talking through all that and what both sides mean and what I mean. It is just awesome.
0:24:48 – Speaker 3
I love it Again, creating a new culture, instead of shutting it down, being like, hey, i’m gonna be in this space with you, let’s learn it together. I wanna hear your thoughts. I wanna see what you find interesting. I will say parents.
0:24:57 – Speaker 2
Twitter should only be high school, i mean it’s 17 plus. Be careful with this.
0:25:01 – Speaker 3
You need to have it is out there And you know what, as much as we wanna change the culture, and we can, and we can set guidelines and boundaries, and we should this is their world, This is what they’re growing up in And in a lot of ways, it’s required as a part of, you know, their schooling and education. So it’s imperative to set those guidelines and not let screens take over family time, but it’s okay to enjoy them.
0:25:21 – Speaker 2
So let’s wrap up this show. One it’s never too late to establish or adjust family guidelines. Two set the example. Avoid becoming the change police. And three create some new culture. Yeah.
0:25:34 – Speaker 1
Thanks for joining us on nextTalk Radio with Mandy and Kim on AM 630, The Word. You are not alone trying to figure out how to parent in this digital world. We are here with practical solutions to help you. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Find our video series and podcast at nexttalkorg. Are you ready for the nextTalk? We’ll see you in the next video.
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